The Safety Trap | 3 Traps That Keep You Playing Small | Ep 364

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The Lie That Kept Me Hidden (And Might Be Holding You Back Too)

Ever told yourself, “I’m just being humble,” while secretly hoping no one asks you to step up?
Yeah… me too.

There was a time I literally bought the domain ProfessionalHider.com (no joke—it even redirects to my site). That’s how committed I was to playing it safe. Hiding felt like protection. Staying invisible felt like control.

But here’s the truth Father showed me:
You can’t step into your calling if you’re still holding hands with a lie.

Sometimes, the lies we believe don’t feel like lies. They sound like wisdom.
They dress up like “realism” or “humility” or “I’m just being honest.”

🧠 “I’m terrible with technology.”
😬 “I can’t be consistent—my brain just doesn’t work that way.”
😅 “I’m just not one of those people who puts themselves out there.”

But underneath those phrases? Is fear.
And under that fear? Pain.

And that pain created a false story. A lie. One that told you it’s safer not to be seen.

But you weren’t made to stay hidden.

Proverbs 4:23 says,

“Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flow the springs of life.”

When we guard our hearts from the truth because we’re afraid to be disappointed again, we live under the limits of lies.

Just like Moses, we start saying things like “I’m not good at speaking” when God’s calling us to lead.

And like Moses, our calling doesn’t change—but we can delay it when we hide.

🛑 So how do we stop playing small?
Here’s the 3-step path out of The Safety Trap:

  1. Recognize the Lie That Feels Safe

    Shine a light on it. Identify the labels you’ve adopted (“I’m not good at…”) that are really shields.

  2. Break Agreement with the Lie

    Use this declaration:
    “I break agreement with the lie that ____. I come into agreement with Father's truth that ____. I receive it, even if my feelings say otherwise. And I choose to live like it’s true.”

  3. Walk in the Truth

    Say yes to that speaking invite.
    Raise your prices.
    Post the vulnerable truth on Instagram.
    Make the call. Pitch the thing.
    Even if your voice shakes or your feet are doing the nervous shuffle.
    Each courageous action rewires your brain to believe what God already says is true about you.

You don’t need to be perfect. You just need to stop hiding.

Because your calling is worth it and so are you, my friend.

💪 Courageous Action Steps Recap:

  • Spot the Safety Label: What are you saying that’s actually fear in disguise?

  • Uncover the Fear: What are you really afraid of?

  • Break Agreement with the Lie: Use the declaration to step into truth.

  • Take One Brave Action This Week: Show up fully you—even if it costs comfort.

Show Notes

Summary

Ever feel like you're stuck in hiding? Like it's just “safer” not to show up fully? In this episode of Live Fearlessly Free, we’re confronting The Safety Trap—those lies we make peace with to protect ourselves from pain. Spoiler alert: they’re not really protecting us. They’re just quietly stealing our calling.

✨ Who This Is For

This episode is for faith-driven women entrepreneurs who:

• Downplay their voice or gifts

• Feel stuck in fear or “not enough”

• Avoid showing up fully in business or life

🔎 What You’ll Walk Away With

✅ How to spot lies that pretend to keep you “safe”

✅ A declaration to break agreement with false identity labels

✅ Encouragement to say yes even when you feel unqualified

✅ Practical truth-walking steps (even when it’s hard)

✅ How action rewires belief and reinforces your God-given identity

✅ Biblical wisdom and real-life stories to remind you: you’re not alone

💬 Sound Bites

“You can’t step into your calling if you’re still holding hands with a lie.”

“Some lies feel like protection—but they’re just pretty cages.”

“Truth becomes real when we walk in it—especially when it costs us something.”

“When we make peace with a lie, we live under its limits.”

🛠️ Courageous Action – The Safety Trap Response Plan

✅ Spot the Safety Label – Identify the “I’m just…” statements you’ve been hiding behind (tech-challenged, too old, ADHD, etc.).

✅ Uncover the Fear – Ask yourself what you’re really afraid of: being seen, rejected, not enough?

✅ Break Agreement with the Lie – Use the declaration:

"I break agreement with the lie that [insert the lie].

I come into agreement with God's truth: I am [insert truth].

I receive it—even if my feelings say otherwise.

And I choose to walk in it starting now.”

✅ Take One Brave Action – Do the thing that makes you feel seen.

Show up online.

Raise your rates.

Say yes.

Even if it scares you.

⏱️ Chapters

00:00 – Are you downplaying your dream?

02:00 – The “humility” that’s really fear

06:00 – Heather’s hiding story

09:15 – The root pain behind your lie

11:00 – What Moses teaches us about hiding

13:15 – Common lies that sound like wisdom

17:00 – Identity labels & the real fear beneath

23:00 – Breaking agreement with lies

25:45 – A declaration formula for truth

30:20 – What it means to walk in truth

34:30 – Truth is a lifestyle

36:35 – Full recap + parent trap cameo 🎶