Podcast Episode 350 - The Courageous Life Part 9 - The Self-Discovery Shift That Makes You Limitless
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Summary
Have you ever brushed off a compliment like it was a mosquito in church? Guilty. For years, I was the master of deflection. But what if the key to your next breakthrough isn’t changing who you are—but finally seeing the incredible woman God already made you to be?
In this episode, I’m showing you how to stop focusing on what’s wrong with you and start calling out what’s right. We’ll uncover the upper limiting beliefs keeping you stuck, learn how to love yourself the way God does (without guilt), and break through the invisible ceiling that’s been capping your success. If you're ready to grow yourself so you can grow your business—this is your moment.
Takeaways
Deflecting compliments can indicate deeper self-perception issues.
Self-discovery is about recognizing and improving the real you.
Our identity is multifaceted, like a diamond.
We often focus on our flaws instead of our strengths.
Proactively loving ourselves is essential for personal growth.
Setting boundaries is a form of self-love.
Investing in personal growth enhances our ability to help others.
Upper limiting beliefs can hinder our success and self-perception.
Shining a light on limiting beliefs helps us overcome them.
Success is about bringing God's goodness to others.
Sound Bites
"We are going to become limitless."
"God’s purpose doesn’t bring pressure—it brings blessing."
"Success doesn’t mean you’ll outshine others. It means you’ll light the way."
"You are not flawed—you’re a masterpiece created in Christ Jesus."
"Your identity is like a diamond—multifaceted, strong, and full of brilliance."
Chapters
00:00 Deflecting Compliments and Self-Perception
01:12 The Courageous Life Series Recap
02:40 Three Components to a Better You
03:50 I Was The Master Compliment Deflector
04:57 Lesson 1 - See You—Call Out the Best Parts of Yourself
13:21 Lesson 2 - Love You—Proactively Love Yourself
20:14 Lesson 3 - Improve You—Become Limitless by Removing Upper Limiting Beliefs
34:20 Recap
35:19 Courageous Action Steps
38:17 Want to Dig Deeper? Check out HelloCourageous.com
Courageous Action: Discovering Yourself
✅ Call Out the Best in You: Write down three strengths or qualities that make you uniquely YOU.
✅ Show Yourself Love: Choose one way to love yourself today—whether it’s speaking life over yourself, setting a boundary, or celebrating a win or something else?
✅ Break a Limiting Belief: Identify one upper limiting belief that’s been holding you back. Shine a light on it by, write it down, cross it out, and replace it with God’s truth.
Every time you see it crop up, shine that light on it and speak God’s truth over yourself.
Resources
Hello, Courageous! The Gal’s Guide to Delight, Discover, and Direct Your Divine Life by Heather Bunch: https://hellocourageous.com
Or get it on Amazon at: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CP3BZ7ZP
Heather Bunch – The Courageous Coach
Heather is a certified life and Enneagram coach, speaker and author who helps women of faith close the gap between their dreams and reality by Live Fearlessly Free. Now they can stop hiding, show up fully themselves and fulfill their God-given purpose–courageously.
Heather also uses her ninja writing skills to help other coaches, speakers, and authors get their ideas out of their heads into their signature system so they can create the income and income they dream about.
Heather’s book is available on Amazon––Hello, Courageous! The Gal’s Guide to Delight, Discover, and Direct Your Divine Life by Heather Bunch: https://hellocourageous.com/hcbook
Or get it on Amazon at: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CP3BZ7ZP
Beat Procrastination cheat sheet: https://www.heatherbunch.com/beatit
You can find Heather at https://www.heatherbunch.com.
Or email her at hello@heatherbunch.com.
Blog Post
The Self-Discovery Shift That Makes You Limitless
How to See, Love, and Improve the Woman God Already Created You to Be
Have you ever deflected a compliment?
Someone tells you how amazing your work is, and you smile politely… but inside, you’re brushing it off like they’re just being nice.
I used to do that all the time.
At my core, I didn’t believe what they saw in me.
And maybe, just maybe, you’ve done that too.
What if the key to your next breakthrough isn’t about becoming someone new…
But finally seeing, loving, and improving who you already are?
Let’s dig into how you can step into the courageous, limitless life God designed for you.
1. See You: Call Out the Best in You
Most of us have been trained to find flaws.
We nitpick our mistakes. We compare.
We scroll social media and see everyone else’s "perfect" life—and forget to see our own worth.
But your identity is not broken.
It's like a diamond—multifaceted, valuable, and already full of brilliance.
Here’s the secret:
You have to train yourself to see what’s right in you.
Just like I had to train my 116-pound golden doodle to respond to my authority (true story), you can train your thoughts to respond to truth.
When doubt whispers, “You can’t do this,”
You speak back, “I can, because God says I can.”
Call out your consistency.
Your creativity.
Your compassion.
Whatever is true, noble, right, lovely—think about those things… and say them out loud (Philippians 4:8).
2. Love You: Steward the Masterpiece
Loving yourself isn’t pride.
It’s agreeing with God about your value.
Jesus said, Love your neighbor as yourself.
But if we don’t love ourselves, how can we love others well?
Loving yourself looks like:
Setting boundaries that protect your well-being and your purpose
Speaking kindly to yourself
Investing in your spiritual and personal growth
Taking care of your body and your mind
Saying no to guilt, and yes to grace
When I walked through depression years ago, it was loving myself that gave me the strength to heal.
And that healing later allowed me to sit beside my son in his darkest season and show him the same love.
You can’t pour from an empty cup.
Fill yours—on purpose.
3. Improve You: Break Free of the Limits
You were not created with a ceiling.
But somewhere along the way, you may have set one.
I call them upper limiting beliefs.
They’re like a thermostat in your mind.
You think you’re only “meant” for 72 degrees of success.
So when you hit 76… your internal system kicks in and brings you back down.
Self-sabotage. Fear. Shrinking back.
But you are not a 72-degree woman.
You were created for more.
Let’s expose a few lies that keep us capped:
"Something is wrong with me."
"If I succeed, I’ll leave people behind."
"Success will bring more stress."
"If I shine, others will feel small."
None of that is from God
You are His workmanship (Ephesians 2:10).
Success isn’t a burden—it’s a blessing.
Your light shines to glorify Him and bless others (Matthew 5:16).
Courageous Action Step
It’s time to take bold, faith-fueled action. Start here:
Write down 3 strengths that make you uniquely you.
Love yourself today in one intentional way—set a boundary, celebrate a win, speak truth over yourself.
Pick one limiting belief and cross it out—physically—and replace it with what God says about you.
For example:
Limiting belief: “If I succeed, I’ll outshine my mom.”
Truth: “My success helps me shine a light on my mom’s gifts too.”
Every time that lie creeps in?
Shine the light.
Speak the truth.
Take courageous action.
If this stirred something in you and you’re ready to go deeper, check out my book:
Hello Courageous: The Gal’s Guide to Delight, Discover, and Direct Your Divine Life
It will help you dig up those old stories and rewrite them with God’s truth.
You’ve got this. And Father’s got you.
Until next time,
Live Fearlessly Free.
Heather 💕