Podcast Episode 260 - Decoding Motivation - What Really Drives Us? Part 1
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How do you currently cope with situations that feel unpredictable or uncertain in your life? Or do you ever feel like life is boring you to tears because it’s the same thing over and over?
Have you ever felt like your efforts went unnoticed or unappreciated, and how did that make you feel?
Have you experienced feelings of loneliness or isolation? Do you remedy that in healthy or unhealthy ways?
We’re starting a new series on decoding what motivates us because it’s vital to know why you do what you do.
Today, if for you if…
If you’re tired of feeling looked out and left over.
If you desire to live a life of meaning, significance and fulfillment full of love.
If you’re ready to shed anything that costs you the life you dream about.
Why do we do what we do?
When you understand why you do what you do…you gain clarity for your purpose, achieve meaning and fulfillment and create deeper connections with others.
We’re all different, and yet, we’re all wired in similar ways.
All human motivation can be explained as the desire to meet one or more of our six primary human needs.
Certainty: The need for stability, safety, and comfort
Uncertainty/Variety: The need for stimulus and change
Significance: The need to be special and worthy of attention
Connection/Love: The need to feel connected and that you belong
Growth: The need to learn and expand your abilities
Contribution: The need to give to others without expecting anything back
We have varying degrees of each need.
And seasons can change the degree we need each need as well.
Also, whichever one you value most will vary from what someone else values most…including your spouse if you have one.
That’s where conflict can come in.
Say you’re #1 need is certainty, and your spouse’s is uncertainty. Can that cause some issues?
We tend to have two top needs.
Which two do you think are your top needs?
Homework:
Tap into your inner needs.
1. What’s your priority?
Break up different areas of life into three manageable parts.
Three Spheres of Life:
Yourself
Your Work
Your Relationships
In what order do you prioritize these spheres of life?
#1
#2
#3
What needs do you meet through Sphere #1?
What needs do you meet through Sphere #2?
What needs do you meet through Sphere #3?
When you know what you need and why, you’ll become more resilient and motivated to keep pushing on. Again, you’ll create more and deeper connections and more meaning and fulfillment.
Hang on to this info, and we’re going to dive deeper into each human need and unpack
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